Blame and game – two words that should never be joined together. The truth is, the blame game is no fun to play and there are never any winners. And, perhaps, the biggest loser of all is the one who is doing all the blaming. When we blame others, we lose our power. Remaining stuck in our feelings of anger,...[ read more ]
For many couples, the discovery of a spousal affair is the ultimate betrayal. And yet, the betrayal by one does not necessarily decrease the love of either party for the other. When you still love someone but the trust has been significantly damaged, is it possible to mend the relationship? Can marriages be rebuilt after an affair?Dr. Janis Spring is...[ read more ]
Thanks to Hollywood, many couples have been led to believe the secret to reconnecting and rekindling the passion is through a Caribbean cruise, sports cars, or jewelry. But the reality is, once there’s a disconnect between partners, gifts and vacations simply won’t cut it.It may seem counterintuitive, but love is mended not through grandiose deeds, but through small acts of...[ read more ]
Seeking help from a marriage counselor is not unlike seeking help from a mechanic. It makes little sense to take your car into the shop a month after it started making a horrific noise. By that time, too much damage may have been done and your engine may be beyond repair. By the same token, the effectiveness of marriage counseling...[ read more ]
The Power of Affirmative Communication Lessons in Communication from My One Year Old Besides a few animal sounds and hi and bye, my daughter’s word of choice is, “Yes”. It’s often said repeatedly, “Yes, yes, yes.” While she applies it rather indiscriminately to many things, she does know a bit of the power behind YES. When she says,...[ read more ]
There's Power In Communicating What You Want Lessons in Communication from My One Year Old Since learning the baby sign for “milk” we have added to our sign language communication with my daughter. She knows some simple signs for things she wants. She can sign “drink”, “banana”, “more”, “bath”, “play”, etc.. After months of “guess work”, mother’s intuition, and desperately trying...[ read more ]
Live and Love with Intention There is an emerging focus on mindfulness in our culture. It has psychological, spiritual, social, and physical implications. Jon Kabat Zinn defines mindfulness as “Paying attention in a particular way; on purpose, in the present moment, and non-judgmentally.” Essentially mindfulness is choosing to live with awareness and intention. Awareness and intention are huge. They are...[ read more ]
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